Resilience and self-esteem are the essential ingredients needed for happiness. In all her books and films, Dr Holstein presents positive psychology as entertainment and a means to happiness.

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self and the author of the Positive Psychology for Women. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.

She has been a contributor to Your Tango, Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time Online, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine.

Dr. Barbara, now an innovator in the selfie films genre, has received numerous high-level industry awards for her films that speak to the issues teens and tweens face in the modern-day world. She speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio shows and podcasts can be found all over the world. Her articles and stories have been featured on the web on hundreds of sites. She also gives lectures, seminars, and tele-classes on happiness.

The magic of the human spirit, with its capacity for survival, growth and joy, has always intrigued Dr. Barbara. As years went by and her practice grew, she longed to explore adult development even further--specifically how to overcome adversity and bring pleasure into one’s life while living a life worth living. A life that is a good life, filled with happiness, meaning and purpose has become the focus of Dr. Holstein's books, films, articles, seminars, radio shows, television shows, podcasts, newsletters, etc. Her methods of improving ourselves so we have more positive emotions and thoughts are easy to understand and move us toward mental wellness and a deeper appreciation of ourselves and our potential.

Latest Articles


We may be in a wonderful mood only to enter the workplace or home and be met by a scowl, a frown, or negative remark from a coworker or family member. How quickly one’s positive state of well being can dissipate. For example, if I walk into the house in a good mood and my […]

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Blessings Make The World Go Round! Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Positive Psychologist comments.

 Hi Ladies,  I hope you are having a beautiful day today.  Don’t we all need to!  Do you feel better when someone has blessed you?  I sure to.  It makes me feel cared about in a special way when I know someone has blessed me.   I’d like to know how you feel about blessings?  Did […]

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The Wise Older Woman

Recently, I attended a beautiful wedding. A young Jewish couple came together in joy and the room was filled with happiness. Outside of the banquet room I noticed a group of older women sitting near the door collecting charity. They all looked very pure and plain at the same time, young seniors and older seniors, […]

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Spring Into Enchantment

Who can control a smile sneaking across your face as you go outside on a beautiful spring day, suddenly finding your nostrils filled with a sweet aroma of fresh blooms, while feeling warm breezes against your skin, whispering, “No coat today.”? Nature provides enchantment all around us in the spring. The birds sing, the flowers […]

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Real Women Having Fun – It’s The Truth!

Here is a great picture of real women having a blast. We all have that girl inside of ourselves just waiting to come out and play. And we need to let her out! Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

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Gateway Three: Learning to Meet Our Needs and Negotiate Successfully

It is never to late to look at the Seven Gateways to Happiness again and again, as women. Let’s look again at Gateway Three. There’s nothing more demoralizing than a woman who does not know how to speak up for herself, who doesn’t have a voice for herself. When we feel ignored or not understood, […]

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Writing for Positive Psychology, Case Book, Fiction for Girls, What’s Next is the question for Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

I am thrilled to share with you some of the article that is now appearing in the Winter edtion of the American Psychological Association’s Independent Practitioner Journal. The article appears on p.17 and soon it will be on line. I will post the on line connection when I have it. “The famous novelist, Proust stated, […]

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We all need to take Vacations, at least vacations of the Mind!

Recently, in a women’s therapy group that I run, the desire for fun and a change of pace over took me. I suggested that we deviate from some of our typical work and instead go around the room imagining a vacation treat designed to suit each woman’s desires. It was fascinating to see how many […]

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Dr. Holstein talks about The Enchanted Self, when women are happy, what damages them and how they can reconstruct themselves.

When I did my research with women, I discovered that, indeed, women have a great capacity for happiness and pleasure.Yes, we are born with it, we have that capacity.And the women I interviewed, all of them verified that in some way they had a way of accessing happiness, states of well-being, feeling good.They all did.Whether […]

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Nancy Drew and THE TRUTH, (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything!

Who did you idolize from television or books when you were a kid? If you are at all like me, you probably enjoyed lots of famous characters and actresses.  I loved Lucille Ball for example, yet Nancy Drew served as an even more important figure in my life than Lucy. She was VERY important when […]

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Magic Potions We All Need This Time of Year

As winter descends we begin to feel the chill of shorter days and less sunlight. For many of us, less hours of light combined with colder temperatures results in us feel less light emotionally. For some of us, who actually have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) gloom really sets in. This gloom often has to be […]

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